Speaker 1: Hi, I'm Denise Simpson, a master life and leadership coach who helps women step into their authentic and feminine power. So they can lead like visionaries influence with grace, create a legacy of contribution and service. You'll hear about real leadership clients with real problems, navigating their success in life, business, [00:00:30] and career. If you are ready to become a masterful leader, then this podcast was made for you. So let's get started.
Speaker 1: Hey, my friend, welcome back to what I know to be true now, listen, I'm not very sophisticated in my learnings. I'm not, I may have a PhD in leadership studies, but listen, the rest of the world [00:01:00] is like void in my brain. Honestly, like I skipped history class probably in high school. I really disliked economics in college. I just, I wasn't into the language arts. I just wasn't sophisticated in that way. Didn't care about literature really just didn't care about anything other than business and leadership. And so my intelligence is very narrow and that scope and, and it's something that I'm now leveraging because that's all I know. And therefore being successful [00:01:30] in my leadership practice as a coach and consultant and mentor to some of the most conscientious women on this planet. So I think it worked out okay for me but I wanted to do this little series for I us because there are certain patterns and conditioning and beliefs and myths about women in leadership.
Speaker 1: And this is from the 25 plus years I've been in this field, not only as a practitioner, but also as a theorist or researcher [00:02:00] and coaching consultant. So I I'm get my hands in the clay with my leaders. And these are the things that come up over and over again. And so this is why I named this series, what I know to be true. And today we're gonna talk about beliefs. Now, did you know that your beliefs can be examined at any point in your lifetime? They're up for examination. Whenever a belief is impeding your growth and [00:02:30] expansion as a human. This is when we want to be conscious of the results that we've created because of these belief systems. So that's typically the linear progression, a belief system, which consists of many thoughts, recurring thoughts, thoughts you've been thinking about over and over again about a particular subject. And the belief system is pretty strong because it has, has deepened into the neural pathways of your mind. [00:03:00] And so here is a belief system that is now impeding in your growth and expansion in whatever particular area of your life you wanna grow and expand in. And so if we're talking about health and wellness, we need to put under the microscope and examine the beliefs you have or around your health and wellness.
Speaker 1: How about for money and your personal finances? I speak a lot about my, my money beliefs, because [00:03:30] this was such a strong belief system that impeded my, my growth as a leader, my wanting to stand up for my salary, you know, request. I mean, I would, I was always so afraid of talking about money with my family and even with my leader. And I knew I needed to increase my salary and wanted to renegotiate my salary. And many times I stopped myself. I [00:04:00] convinced myself that it wasn't gonna be worth the pain and that maybe I wasn't worth that increase. And so there were a lot of beliefs, just again, thoughts that you think about over and over again, right? They solidify into a belief system. And so I had many, many thoughts about this value of money, what money meant to me and in, in regards to my career and the pain that the discomfort and the pain that I [00:04:30] felt, because I knew others were, were, were earning way more than me.
Speaker 1: And I had way more experience in education. And I knew I needed to say something, but I didn't have the courage. Right. I couldn't muster up courage to stand firm in my conviction that I deserved more and, and that I was willing to do more even to get what I deserved and the brain does this story. Like, you know what, you're [00:05:00] gonna survive without that increase. It's okay. It's best that we just stay quiet because we're gonna avoid humiliation. We're gonna avoid embarrassment. We're gonna avoid this challenging conversation that you're gonna have to have with your leader. So why don't we just not do that? And let's just settle for what they gave you initially. And I would do this often. And once I noticed that this was a pattern, maybe third, [00:05:30] probably the third or fourth time that I was really questioning my, my salary is when I realized whoa, there is something very interesting going on with this brain of mine designed to, to keep me alive.
Speaker 1: So it's designed for survival. It's usually negative in nature. And this is the story that it's presenting to me every time I wanna talk about money and I needed to do something about that. And so I had to reexamine [00:06:00] the belief system around money and my career, and, and so much came from that work because then I realized that I get to choose what I wanna believe that I have agency over my brain that although the brain is automatic and it's to do these negative things and, and designed to keep me in the cave and keep me protected, I have conscious agency over what I wanna believe, which will then help [00:06:30] me create a very specific result in my life. And so I wanna share that with you. Did you know that your beliefs can be examined at any point in your life? So if you are on a weight loss goal, check in with your belief systems around your body, your body image, your self worth, is it tied to appearance?
Speaker 1: Is it tied to desirability? And whether you are desired by, by, [00:07:00] by someone, right? I know that a lot of women put stock into their vanity. And this is, this is tied to their worthiness. Are they worthy of a companion? Not, not because of all of the amazing gifts that they can bring to a relationship, but at they're bringing the attractiveness to the relationship and the desirability a relationship. And so these beliefs are impeding your growth and expansion as a human and also the [00:07:30] specific results you wanna create. So your beliefs again, are tied to your daily thoughts out about this one particular subject and your thoughts, therefore create feelings or emotions in your body. How do those thoughts make you feel if these thoughts are heavy, it make you feel heavy in nature, resistant in nature, negative in nature, fearful in nature, scarce city in nature.
Speaker 1: [00:08:00] Then it's time to reexamine these clusters of thoughts that are your belief systems. And so take a close look at what you've created in your life thus far in your personal finances. How about in your health and wellness? How, how about in your intimate relationships? How about in your quality relationships with friends? How about your rest and relaxation rituals, [00:08:30] which includes your self care? How about your spirituality or your religion or faith, what results have you created in these areas of your life and are they fulfilling? And, you know, I love to talk about fulfillment. This is a great way to measure where we are consciously in these areas of our lives. This is the work, this is the good work, my friend that we get to do as leaders. And so check in with a particular goal that you want to achieve. [00:09:00] What has worked for you in the past and what hasn't and what are we gonna leave in the past?
Speaker 1: What new beliefs do we need to carry into the future so that we can create a guaranteed result in that particular area of your, your life. So having agency over your beliefs is so important. Probably one of the most important things that I learned for myself is that I get to believe what I want to believe. I get to believe [00:09:30] that I am a seven figure earner. I get to believe that I'm putting valuable content, life, transforming that's life, changing for my clients. I get to believe that the seeds that I'm planting today and this good work that I'm doing with my clients will be affected in multiple generations to come. I get to believe what I wanna believe about my body, about my wellbeing, about my [00:10:00] intimate relationships and how valuable they are to me. I get to believe what I wanna believe around career and business.
Speaker 1: I get to believe what I want to regarding the government. I get to believe what I wanna believe about my religion. And so do you, and I know that we have so many layers upon layers upon layers of socialization and cultural exploitations [00:10:30] that have affected our beliefs about ourselves and our roles in this lifetime. I, at that, that's the deepest work that you'll get to do, but for now, what I know to be true is that you get to examine your beliefs. Whenever you want to just look at the results you've created thus far. And if these results are not fulfilling to you and they're caus more pain than [00:11:00] fulfillment, that's the area. That's the area you want to look at. And this is the area you wanna put those beliefs under the microscope. And this, my friend is what I know to be true.
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