Speaker 1: Hi, I'm Denise Simpson, a master life and leadership coach who helps women step into their authentic and feminine power. So they can lead like visionaries influence with grace and a legacy of contribution and service. You'll hear about real leadership clients with real problems, navigating their success in life, business, [00:00:30] and career. If you are ready to become a masterful leader, then this podcast was made for you. So let's get started.
Speaker 1: What I know to be true are your results are a direct correlation to the beliefs that you have. Ooh, yikes. Right. [00:01:00] Okay. So what I know to be is a short mini series here on my podcast, where I take about 10, 12 minutes an episode and tell you, or share with you something that I learned to be true through my teachings as a professor and academic, through my research, through my dealings and, and, and help with my clients as a consultant and coach all the breakthroughs, self breakthroughs, breakthroughs with my clients, transformations with the people I serve. I [00:01:30] have found certain things to be true. And today we're gonna talk about your results, the results you've created in your life. So let's get to at my friend your results. Okay. So let, let's take a look at your results. Okay. Let's look at your personal life.
Speaker 1: I know gasp. Oh my goodness. Okay. On a scale of one to 10, my friend 10 being the most fulfilled one being not really right. One is like, [00:02:00] no, there's just so much room to grow so much more we can do in this area. And 10 being wow. Fulfilled. I don't know if I can get past a 10, but we're at a 10. So I want for you to look at the results you've created in your personal areas of your life. And one of them is your personal finances. So let's take a quick gauge on this liker scale. Where are are you from one to 10, five being right in the mid midway, right? There's I'm not completely unfulfilled [00:02:30] and I'm definitely not fully fulfilled. There's a lot of room to grow here. What do you score yourself on your personal finances? Okay. Self honesty.
Speaker 1: My friend is very important. Yes. Especially, we're doing this work together. So now tell on a scale of one to 10, how is your health and wellness? Where would you measure that in terms of fulfillment? One to 10. How about in your intimate relationships? [00:03:00] Where are you on a one from a one to 10? Are you super fulfilled in the intimate relationship you're in right now or not? Or are you midway or are you, are you a little higher than five, but not quite a 10? Where are you? So here's our last one. How about career or a business? So if you're a business owner like me, an entrepreneur like me, or are you on a scale of one to 10 or your career, where are you on that scale? So if you're a professional [00:03:30] woman, you're an emerging leader, or maybe a seasoned one, you are on a trajectory of leadership, right?
Speaker 1: You are in your own path to leadership. Where are you right now on that scale of fulfillment, one to 10. So again, self honesty is gonna be really important. And especially if you and I are gonna work together, they know that there's, there's no room for, for superficial answers or for lying to yourself or to your coach, right? This is where we get to [00:04:00] be real about our lives. This is where we get to look at the results we've created in our lives today. What, what have I created for myself and my career and business? Am I fulfilled in this area? Or is there room to grow here? How about your intimate relationships? This one is an interesting one for, for my female, our clients, right? We're busy. We are tending to our own career desires, but also our children's desires and their needs. [00:04:30] And sometimes our partners, our lovers, our spouses get a backseat, right.
Speaker 1: To a lot of that intimacy. Maybe there's no room for intimacy at this point. So where are you in that part of your life? What result have you created? Are you on the brink of divorce? Have you found out something interesting about your partner or spouse? Maybe they have found a lover that are tending to their needs right now, maybe [00:05:00] you found out that he, you or she has been entertaining people online, right? Maybe they're focused on not being at the house very often because they're, they, they're not getting the intimacy at home. So they're gonna find it somewhere else or distract themselves from it, by doing something else. So what result have you created in that area of your life? How about your health and wellness? You know, for me, it's, it's, let me tell you health and wellness. Since [00:05:30] I was a child has always been a priority.
Speaker 1: It's always been on, you know, top of mind. And I can honestly say right now at this point in my life, I'm at an eight, you know, I have a personal coach or trainer, I should say, I have a great nutrition path. I have, you know, been with my personal trainer for almost a year, this June. So I'm so excited about that. I've I've, I just feel like an athlete. I have, I've got all the endorphins, you know, running and, and fully, fully embodied in my [00:06:00] cells. And I'm just like, wow. I, I feel so great. And I'm putting quality food in my body and I'm using it for fuel, especially brain fuel in particular. It's how I reframed my relationship with food. And so I'm at, you know, strong eight, nine maybe. Well, I ever be at a 10, you know, I don't know.
Speaker 1: I, and let me tell you something. I don't measure myself on a scale that doesn't determine how fulfilled I am. That is not my measurement of success. It, it was [00:06:30] at one point in my life, but it is certainly not in my forties. It's something I do not care to look at. I want to feel powerful. I want to feel healthy. I want to feel like an athlete. And if I know I'm doing what I'm supposed to be doing, and I'm feeling so good doing it, then there's no scale. That's gonna tell me I'm successful or not. I don't think so. I don't work that way. And I've trained my personal trainer to believe that to.
Speaker 1: And [00:07:00] so where are you right now on your health and wellness on a scale of one to 10 and then your personal finances, right? Are you in debt? Do you have student loan debt like me? I have a six figure student loan debt, whatever. It's it's, you know, for some people that is negative me, it's it is, it is what it is. It's neutral. It's a neutral circumstance for me. It's not until I have a belief about debt, right? A, a belief that, that conjures up a negative emotion, [00:07:30] right? Like, like if I think debt is something to be embarrassed about, well, I'm gonna feel embarrassed and I'm not gonna talk about it, but I don't dead is neutral to me. I have worked so hard on, on, on just, you know, pulling out all of those thoughts, those thoughts that are creating negative emotions about it, feeling of shame and guilt and embarrassment.
Speaker 1: No, I've done so much work on that. That it's now neutral for me. And I I'm happy, happy to talk about my student loan [00:08:00] debt. It's, you know, I invested in my brain, I invested in my career. I invested in my business, you know, that's how I look at my student loan debt. So how about for you? Do you have credit card debt? Do you owe the IRS right now? Are you owning your mother-in-law because, you know, she loaned you a $10,000 loan so that you can go to school or so that you could pay for that water boiler that busted last summer, right? Like what are you thinking about your personal finances? [00:08:30] Are you proud? Are you hopeful? Are you excited? Are you the breadwinner? Does that conjure up thoughts of, of, of hell? Yeah. I'm a badass. And I'm proud of that. Or are you, are you filled with negative thoughts about you being the breadwinner?
Speaker 1: Right. Especially in my culture, in my culture and the Mexican American culture or the subculture, I should say it's really wrong of me to generalize here. In my particular subculture of the Mexican American culture, men are the breadwinners [00:09:00] and the women stay home and they bear the children, nurture and care and raise for the children. That's not something I wanted to adopt. It's something I was completely opposed to growing up. And because I also, so all mother who was quite the feminist who worked her off as a nurse, and who told her daughters education is the key to success. And so get your education and no one will screw with you. It's really what my, my mother's model was. And so for me, it was always [00:09:30] being the one at the forefront, uh, you know, controlling her life, controlling her destiny, taking inspired action to be successful, to, to, to continue my ambition.
Speaker 1: Right. And so that's something that was embedded in me in my particular family. Now, my friend down the street, however, wasn't so lucky, right? She was pregnant at 15 child at 16 and didn't [00:10:00] continue her educational pursuits and had another child at 18. And so we just, you know, we lived across the street from each other, but we had very different upbringings, different values that our parents brought to us. And so what are your beliefs about personal finances and where you're at today and how fulfilled are you from one to 10? So we have to look at our results that we've created, because if we're, we're, we're looking and we're gonna reverse engineer, really what, what these results are [00:10:30] it. If we do that, we're looking really at your belief systems, what you believe to be true, because what you leave to be true is what you're going to create in your life.
Speaker 1: So here's that linear progression. And this is the, the simplest explanation that I have for you is that your belief systems will inspire thoughts. You're having 65,000 plus thoughts a day, my friend. So you have beliefs about certain things in your life, right? The belief about your health and wellness, the belief about personal finance [00:11:00] is your belief about intimate relationships, your belief about career or your business. So you have these belief systems and they are inspiring daily thoughts about them. So here you are consciously wanting to set a goal for your personal finances, right? Like I wanna clear my student debt at, in a year's time. And these are the actions I'm gonna take. You know, so here you are setting these goals and you're conscious it. And you're like, so excited about it. And you're like, whoa, whoa, whoa. Yes, yes, yes. [00:11:30] But then three months in you rack up another $10,000 on your credit card or something, right.
Speaker 1: Or something happens, an emergency high happens and you have to go borrow money. And so there you are adding more debt to your, your finances. And so here you are taking consciously three steps forward, but then something happens and you're taking 10 steps back. And so we have to look at your beliefs and how strongly held your beliefs are because it's your beliefs that are going to keep you moving forward [00:12:00] no matter what gets in your path, what gets in your way. So after we look at those thoughts, those thoughts create emotion, a feeling in your body. And I talk a lot about this in the last few episodes of the series, but those emotions are what are going to fuel your action or inaction, right? So if you're feeling proud that you are the breadwinner, or you're feeling proud that you're going to eliminate that debt, you're gonna be [00:12:30] taking inspired action, and you're gonna call the debt or the loan company, and you're gonna settle some debt, or you're gonna call your mother-in-law and say, listen, I'm gonna put $500 down this next paycheck.
Speaker 1: And I'm gonna do this every two weeks. Right? So you're taking inspired action from that feeling of pride, excitement to clear your debt, right? And the results you ultimately accomplish is your debt free. So you see how your results are so important to look at my friend. [00:13:00] But first we need to look at how fulfilled you are from one to 10, because these are the areas. Anything less than a five that you score are the areas that we wanna look at closer. These are the areas that we want to pay close attention into. And we wanna reverse engineer and look at those beliefs that are driving those thoughts, those emotions, and those actions. And this, my friend is what I know to be true.
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