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00:47 Hey, welcome back to another episode. I'm happy you're here. My friend, I want to talk to you about your future self and listen. I know it's the end of the year. We are racing to end this year and we were, we're so excited to start this new year. I know I am 2022 is going to be a magical transformational year. Mark. My words, my friends, because this is the year that sovereign leadership makes her debut. This amazing program for women leaders is going to change the way society looks at how women lead, but it starts with you. The work begins with you, my friend. And so 20, 22 is going to be extra special for us. And I'm like you looking into the future. I want to end this year. I'm like ready to close the chapter, close the book here, and I'm ready to write the new chapter, but I'm writing it now right now.
01:52 It's early December. I'm beginning my goals for 2022 now. And that looks a lot like my business goals. It looks a lot like getting very, very selective in what I choose to do in my business, who I choose to serve in my business, the things I'm saying no to in my business, here's, what's really interesting. 2020 and 2021 helped me really look at my personal life. I was probably like many of you, the rested into putting our personal lives under the microscope. What are the things we're not going to do anymore in our personal lives? What are the things we're just not going to tolerate anymore? What are the boundaries that we need to put back up or build? Right. So 20, 20, 20, 21 really allowed me to look at my health and wellness, my mental wellbeing, my spiritual wellbeing, the relationships of course, the relationship I have with myself first and, and the relationships I have with others, my intimate relationship with my partner and spouse and my relationships with my friends and my very small group of board of directors that I have selected in my life.
03:18 These are women who are put in this circle to keep me authentic and keep me really moving forward in alignment with my values and the board of directors that I'm talking about, our friends and family members, who I trust and love and trust my deepest, darkest, darkest secrets to, and, you know, they know, you know, my personal goals and they also know my business goals. And so they are my trusted group of board of directors. And so 20, 20 and 2021 really thrusted us all. I think, into putting our, our relationships under the microscope. And there are things that I have said no to in my marriage. There are things that I have said no to in my friendships or in my family relationships. There are things that I have added to. There are things that I have modified that I've edited. There are now enhancing my life.
04:20 That was the whole point I think of this pandemic was to really put it all under the microscope. And I did a lot of work on the personal side. And so I feel like 20, 22 is for me, at least it's now, we're now looking at the future in, in, especially in my business and what that is going to look like and how that is going to help humanity, how that's going to transform lines, how it's going to change the way society, views women in leadership. So many things that I have on the horizon in regards to the business and 2022 is where it all begins, but I'm not waiting for 2022 to begin. That's the point I want to make here is that we're not waiting until then. We're starting now right now, early December, we're putting our plan. We're putting our plan of action on paper.
05:21 We are now getting conscious of what we want to create for our future selves. And the future self is, is she's out there going, hello? I'm waiting for you. You know, time-space reality does not, you know, it does not impede our, our vision, our goal here, I'm there in the future waiting for you, but we can start now. And so when I talk about your future self, I want for you to put the things that you have desired for so long, the things that you put on the back burner on the back burner, the last two years, what, what is that desire or desires or these desires personal desires that you have is it to find the lever and put them in the bed? Is it to make that million dollar, uh, financial goal in your business? Is it to get the leadership role that you've been working so hard on your entire career?
06:22 Is it to have that child that you've been wanting to have? Is it the weight loss? Is it the health and vigor and wellness that you're looking for in your body? Is it your spiritual connection that you have put on the back burner? What are the things, the desires that you said no to that you said, okay, not now, these are desires. You're there. I feel you, they come up as urges. They come up as glimpses that of, of, of thought streams of thought that come up during the day, you know, fantasies, daydreaming. This happens to me often. I, I get into an interesting thought energy pattern. And then I start getting glimpses of what is to come. And that excites me, like, no one, like nobody's business that excites me. Like, I'm like, like that, it's like a freight train. I'm like, let's go, let's go create this.
07:19 You know, 20, 20 and 2021 really, really put an end to some of those strong desires that I had for my business. And I say, put an end to it temporarily. It was a temporary pause. Maybe that's a better word. It was, it was a pause. And now we get to press play again. And this time, this time we don't have breaks. We're not breaking for anything or anyone. This desire has, has, has been dormant for so long. And now I'm nurturing it again. I'm now bringing it back to life. I'm now doing daily work daily mental work to get excited and reengaged about these big desires I have for my business, because it is my responsibility. It is your responsibility to fan the flame. It's your responsibility to nurture the desire, whatever that desire is. And so your future self is saying, fan the flame girl, let's go like I'm waiting for you. It has already manifested. It has already been created. Let's go now, it's your responsibility today present today, this moment to do the thought work, the energy work.
08:46 And when you take the time to do that, I promise you your actions, all those actions will be so inspiring. You're going to be so inspired to take forward motion, because I can't tell you how to achieve your goal, right? You, you will figure that out. My job is to get you in alignment to get you mentally prepared for the transformation on the other side, the how is not my concern. Listen, we can talk about strategy all day everyday. I've have. So I have so many strategies for leadership and for business building. That is that's something I am, I'm an expert in for sure. But what's the point of these strategies. If your mindset isn't ready, if you don't believe that you can achieve that goal, you don't believe that your future self is telling you come over. I'm so ready for you.
09:47 What's the point of strategies if the mindset isn't right. So this is the time December's always the time that magical things happen. Now, for those of you logic brain leaders out here, thank you for reminding me that there are things that are logical and that we, you know, we, we, we, we make decisions from logic sometimes just sometimes I want for you to make decisions from your emotional mind, from that beautiful brain of yours, that creates emotion, your brain creates logic, reasoning, rationale, but it also creates an emotional mind. And so I want for you to use all of your brain in this exercise and want for you to take the time, to write down what this desire is that you want to bring forth into 2022. And you can make a column, make a column of your personal desires and your professional desires. So if you are a leader in an organization and you are wanting to achieve that promotion, you are wanting to match the salary with a new job title or the current job title.
11:11 You have, whatever your desire is for your professional life. Jot that down. Is it you going back and getting an MBA? Is it you going and getting a terminal degree? Is it you dropping everything and going to law school, or is it you leaving the organization to start your consulting business? What are those professional desires? You know, personal desires are as important as professional desires, but a lot of us spend the majority of our lives in, in our businesses or in our organizations. And so I want for those professional desires to be so juicy and exciting, I want them to feel delicious, tastes delicious. And when you think about it, you get the goose goosies that you get chills up and down your spine. You use the power of visualization to get you to that future state.
12:05 So make a list of your professional desires, which slash goals, right? We'll call them desires just to be, be fun about it and make that list. And this is for your eyes only. So be as ridiculous as you want, be as crazy as you want. You know, that's a list that, um, that's between you and the universe, really it is. And then on the other side, make a list of your personal desires. What are some of those juicy, delicious desires that you have put on hold you put on pause for, perhaps you put it, you put them on pause for the family. Perhaps you put them on pause for your partner or your lover or your spouse, or for those of us who are caregivers and caretakers. You know, a lot of us are in that sandwich generation where we have young kids at home, but we also have aging parents here too.
13:06 And so what are those personal desires that you put on pause for the pandemic, for whatever reason you put them on pause for, bring them out, bring them out to light, bring them out into the daylight. Like I want for them to see the day of light. I want for them to see that that they're still relevant and that they're still important to you. And if, and if you say, you know what, Denise, I don't think that's that's achievable. I just, I think it's, it's, it's, it's embarrassing or it is selfish or it's just too time consuming. It's, you know, I don't have that kind of investment to make like these desires or, you know, just need to be put on hold a little longer. How much longer are you going to put your needs and desires on a hold for everybody else? You let something that the last few months have really allowed me to evaluate.
14:08 I was hiring a personal trainer and you all know, I love coaches I'm in this business because I believe in it. And I have a business coach, a running coach. I've had all kinds of coaches and a personal trainer, however, was 10 times more than a coach that I wanted to hire for my business. And I remembered writing down a cost risk analysis, like, okay, what are the benefits of Euro? What am I risking here? My goodness. And I wrote down the amount, how much this was going to cost me per year. And I remembered saying, I'm betting on myself. I'm betting on myself. I deserve this. I'm all in on myself. And I'm going to pay this fee to hire this personal trainer. Because I believe in myself, I believe that I can do this. I believe that I'm deserving of this. I believe that I will get to this personal health and wellness that I have wanted to be at for so long.
15:23 And I believe in this human, this person, who's going to guide me to those results, but he's not going to do them for me. He's going to guide me. It is up to me to take those actions, to take the time, to work on my body. And I said, you know what? I'm all in because I'm, I bet on myself every day and I'm going to make this work. And this will not, this will not be a sacrifice because I want this. I deserve this. And I hired a personal coach and we're about six months in and I'm so excited, but this was, you know, during the, the 2020 start of the pandemic, I was like, I can't go anywhere. I'm going to have to run on the street or run here in my house or get on the Peloton. I'm just going to have to do this on my own.
16:17 And I had, I had wanted to hire a personal trainer for such a long time. And I use the pandemic as an excuse. We don't have enough money. I want, I need to reserve. I don't know what the future's going to hold. I don't know how long this pandemic is going to last. I don't know what our financial outlook is going to be. I just, I can't spend money. I was driven by fear. And then six months ago, I said, enough is enough. I deserve this growth and expansion. I deserve to feel my best. And I'm going to bet on myself to do the work. And I have to tell you, I feel so strong. I feel like an athlete. I've never felt this way before. I'm not, and have never been, uh, considered an athlete was never on sports teams or even individual competitive sports was that was not my thing.
17:09 It was not my thing. And now in my forties, I'm realizing, wow, I can lift really heavy and I can really kick some butt in this gym. And I'm so excited that I took the chance and it was like, okay, am I taking a chance or am I really going all in on myself? And that's actually what happened? I went all in on myself and I invested that money. And so I want for you to start thinking about what it is that you've been putting on hold, because you have feared, you know, a big investment or have feared a failure maybe, or judgment from others, or what would they think? What will my mother-in-law think? What will my mother think? If I do this for myself, she's probably going to say, what you're you don't have kids. Hello? You got to take care of the kids.
17:56 Why are you doing this for yourself? Why are you going to go get this for yourself? Why are you doing this for yourself? And the answer that I want you to give every single person who opposes or objects your needs and desires is this. If I am not fulfilled, the no one in this home will, or if I am not fulfilled, no one in this organization. Well, how can you bring your best? If you are lacking, if you are unfulfilled, if you are driven by fear and running on fear, how are you going to give your best to others? How are you going to show up like the leader that your subordinates, your followers deserve? How are you going to show up as a mother to those beautiful children? If you are running on empty all because you put your desires and needs on pause. So 2022, my friend is the year where your future self is saying, wake up, dust those desires off, get them back on the table and start fanning the flame because those desires will die.
19:15 If you do not fan the flame of those desires, this is, this is what I know to be true, because then life gets busy. Work gets busy. We're raising our children. We're having more children. We're going through breakups, divorces, marriages, all the things we get so busy, we put everyone else before us. But your future self is saying, not this time, not this time. So 2022 is here. Whether you have celebrated new year's new year, new year's day or not, it is here. It is time that we put this on paper, and then we start getting mentally energetically prepared to take the action steps required because they are required. We don't, we don't just sit here on our hands. We don't rest on our laurels. We are ready to do inspired work, but you have to do the mental work first. So after you do that list, the two columns, your personal desires and your professional desires. I want for you to pick one from each of those lists. I want for you to pick your number one for your personal desires and your number one for your professional desires. And I want for you to start brainstorming what it's like in the future. Once you have achieved that desire, once you have fulfilled that desire, and it is now an accomplished goal, uh, one for you to go there into the future.
20:53 And I want for you to write down what comes up for you. What is that future self telling you once you achieved that professional goal, I want for you to write down the images that come up, the thoughts, the feelings, all of the stirring of the energy that comes up when you visualize from your future self, from that future self, write down what you smell, what you hear, what, what you see in that picture, because that's the image that you're going to go to time and time again. When things get lost, your desires will find a way to go back into the dark. They're going to find a way to hide again, because your brain is going to create some interesting stories because your brain is saying, you know, that's not a good idea, Denise seven figure business again. No, no. It was a fluke.
22:02 You did it once. I don't know if you can do it again. Yeah, no girl. That's not going to happen. And I'm going to tell my brain, thank you. Glad you're here to scare the hell out of me, but I'm conscious. And here is that visual that I have for myself. My future self said that it is done. And in that scene or in that visualization, once I have accomplished this professional desire, that reminds me of everything that my mother worked so hard for. She standing right there in that future space with me, and we're celebrating the success, even though she's not on this earth, even though she's not physically with me, she is there with me in the future and she's rooting me on along the way. And she's standing next to me. We're looking at the bank account. We're looking at those numbers together. And she said, I was waiting for you. And your future self was waiting for you. We were waiting for you to get here. And I'm so proud of you and look at all of the millions of humans. You've helped. Look what the value that you put out into the world, look at what has been reflected back upon you.
23:28 Look at this. That's what I see. My mother is in every future seeing with me because she was my first leader and she was the first dreamer. She was the first person to say, you can be, do have whatever the hell you want. And she is why I do what I do because I, I, I work for my foremothers for my mother, for my grandmothers, for my aunts, my Diaz, who are no longer with us and all the others that I never met. I'm here privileged to be able to do this work, to be able to speak my mind, to be, to be able to empower other women, embolden other women, to be impactful, transformational leaders because of the work that my foremothers put in for me, they set the path for me. So as I'm traveling into the future, I'm bringing them all with me. They're all with me. And the actions I take are driven by the legacy that they left me. How dare I squander that? How dare I sit on that? Now we're going to do inspired work and it starts with your desires. So this is the work we do this month. We're starting now my friend.
24:50 So once you jot those, those personal desires and professional desires down, you're going to pick the number one on each of those lists. And then I want for you to do the visualization work. Once that desire is completed, accomplished your future self is showing you what, and then write down what comes up for you. Whatever comes to mind, write it down because that is the place that is the visualization place that you're going to go to when your desires want to hide. When your brain wants to create those stories, that you're not worthy, that that is frivolous. And it's ridiculous. And you're going to embarrass yourself or whatever your brain wants to present to you.
25:38 That's the visualization scene. That's a place you're going to go to every time your brain wants to tell you a story, because your conscious, my friend, you're a conscious leader and you're creating the life that you deserve. So let's start now, 2022 is, is here. It's here in our brains. And I want for us to do this fun work together. All right. I hope you found today's episode helpful. This is such a fun exercise for me. December of any year is always so magical for me. I get so excited about what's to come and what I'm creating. And I just go all in. And I want for you to bet on yourself. My friend bet on yourself a million times over because no one else will, you know who you are. You know what you're capable of, you know, your strengths, you know what you can do in your organization. You know how you can impact your people, your families, your communities, you know yourself so well bet on yourself, moving forward. All right, my friend have a magical week. Thank you for joining me. I look forward to serving you on our next episode. Take care. Bye.
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