00:08 Hi, I'm Denise Simpson, a master life and leadership coach who helps women step into their authentic and feminine power. So they can lead like visionaries influence with grace, create a legacy of contribution and service. You'll hear about real leadership clients with real problems, navigating their success in life, business, and career. If you are ready to become a masterful leader, then this podcast was made for you. So let's get started.
00:47 Hey, welcome back my friend. Happy you're here. Listen, I wanna talk about your mama. your mother. I wanna talk about your mom. I wanna talk about your mom's mom. I wanna talk about your lineage. I wanna talk about your line of womanhood. I wanna know more about what drives you. What are your beliefs and your values that you got from your mama? I love when people say I got that from my mama. Yep. This big butt is from my mama. Yes. This big brain is from my mama. Yes. This voice is from my mama. The roar that you hear every day, it's from my mama. Now, some of us have very positive experiences in relationships with our, our mothers. And so there's a lot of wonderful values and things that we've, we've taken on as our own as adult women, as sovereign women. And we stand firmly in who we are.
01:41 But how about the women out there who didn't have that same experience didn't have that same, uh, experience with her mother? The, the, the kind where you admire your mother, you look up to your mother, you know that yes. There are things that she did that you took on as an adult. And there's things that you've left behind, but you're conscious of it, right? There are so all many clients that I have and a lot of powerful women that I serve, who don't, or did not have that relationship with their, with their mothers. And so I wanna get us really thinking about who we are as women today, what we took from our mothers, what we left behind. And if you are a mother and you have children, especially if you have daughters, what are you instilling in her? Like, let's get conscious. So it's really you bridging the past and the future.
02:37 And the past is your mother and her mother and her mother's mother and the future, your children, or if you don't have children, the legacy that you're leaving and who you're serving, right? Your subordinates, your followers, your community members, right. May not be blood, blood children, but, but the future in, in serving, you know, constituents and others that you deeply care about. So you are the bridge between the past and the future. And I love doing that during this, this season. And the holiday season really gets me excited because I give so much gratitude and appreciation for what my mother did for myself and my sisters, what she did for her entire family, the work ethic she instilled in us. She was my first model of feminism. She was the first woman to tell me that I could be, do, and have whatever my heart desires.
03:37 She was the first woman to say, you will go and get your education because they can take your men. They can take the clothes off your back. They can even take your home, but they will never take your brain from you, which is so interesting that she always brought it back to our own individual sovereignty and what we wanted to do with our lives. I mean, this was a woman, who's a nurse, a beloved nurse in her community. And at 15, 16 years old, she was talking to us about birth control. Well, she was also, uh, an OB GYN nurse. So she worked with gynecologist and an obstetrician, uh, physicians. And so she was very, very, a versed in a woman's reproductive organs and her rights and, and what was best for her and how to protect herself from pregnancy, from disease, from all the things.
04:31 So my mother was very open, you know? Yes, she was Catholic and yes, she was conservative, but she was very, very in tuned what society was, trend, how society was trending for her daughters. And so my mother really, really, you know, kept her ear to the ground. In that regard, she wanted for us to have power in education. She wanted to make sure we were well informed as women, as sovereign women. And so this is the time of year where I go back and I look at what I'm bridging, right? I I'm here. I stand as a powerful sovereign woman, but there were a lot of moving parts. There are a lot of things that had to happen to get me here to this time, space reality. And I cannot not help, but think of my mother and the values that I took from her.
05:28 Yes, there were things that I left that did not serve me and consciously I realized that, but there were so many more things that I, I have taken on as a woman in leadership, a woman in her, her marriage, in her partnership with her husband as a stepmother to two boys that I did not give birth to that I treat like my own. I am also a community leader, an organizer and activist. And so all of the, of the values that I learned from her, I now get to fully demonstrate to myself and to my followers, whether they're my stepchildren, my nieces, nephews, or my community members, I get to really fully demonst great all of those beautiful values. But now I, I also can't help, but think where did my mom learn those things? Because her, her mother was raised in a very different era.
06:28 My grandmother was born in Mexico and married very young to hardly knew my grandfather and was, you know, moved here to the us and had lots of kids, cuz that's what she was supposed to do as a Mexican woman who did not have an education who did not speak English, who never learned how to drive her entire time. She lived in the us. My grandmother had very traditional Mexican values and here was my mother, you know, being raised in the fifties sixties and is seen the American culture and, and society. And what society's saying about women and not saying about women and my mother was forming her own opinions and, and her own value system. You know, she was fully aware that she had one foot in the Mexican values and one foot in the us values, right? The American values. And although there are so many common things that Mexico and the us shares, my mother was seeing the freedom that she, she had as a woman and, and her rights as a woman.
07:44 And she following, you know, her desire to go into nursing. Here's what was interesting. Yes. My mother conservative Catholic woman had had a lot of beautiful values and work ethic that she got from her parents. But my mother formed her own opinions about women in society. My mother was ready to share with her daughters that these are the things that are working against us. And these are the things that are, and now you, you get to think for yourself as a sovereign woman and you get to decide what you wanna take with you and what you wanna leave. So where did my mother get that from? Right? Where did she have that sense of openness? And, and I, I admire her so much and now by the way, my mom's no longer on this physical plane. Although she, she is here with me at every square inch of my house.
08:48 um, my mother is present and I feel her energy and she supports me through my, my journey as a leader and as a wife and, and, and I have sought her counsel, um, since, since forever. And my mother has really been my north star. You know, I think about when I'm making business decisions, is this something that's going to make? My four mothers, my four mothers, my mother, my Mo, my grand, my grandmother, my grandmother's mother, and, and all the women that really paved the way for me to be here. Will I make them all proud? And a lot of times when I pray and do meditation, and there's a lot of rituals that I do, I combine a lot of my Catholic upbringing, which is very mystical in a sense, and my spiritual ideologies and I integrate everything. And there are a lot of rituals that I do where I call in the divine feminine energy, which includes my four mothers, my four mother, all the women in, in this lineage, all the women that came before me, all the women that I've shared, this, this, this, this space with whether it's biological or not.
10:09 These were women that have led the, the path who were here before me and because of them and their efforts and their decisions and their values. I am here today as the most sovereign powerful woman that I've, I've ever been. So it's an opportunity to stop and think about you bridging the past with your future. And when I think about my future, I'm thinking about all of the women, my clients, my students, my family, my friends, my community members, my constituents, I cannot help, but think of the impact that I'm leaving behind because of the work I am doing in this discipline of leadership in this field of leadership, where women have had a very, very difficult time in getting their voices heard and, and, and being the most authentic leader that she wants to be. There's so many obstacles and it's a E labyrinth she has to navigate. And not only is she, is she dealing with, with societal ceilings, but her own perceived glass ceilings in her, in her mind. So what is the legacy you will leave? I plan to leave what legacy of great impact in this field of study to help women navigate leadership easier.
11:47 Right? That's what I'm thinking about when I think of bridging the past and my future, because I am the nucleus, right? I am the bridge I'm right here, present and ready to bridge the past with the future. And I'm going to take with me into the future, what serves me and what will serve the greater good. And so if you are standing here reflecting upon the past and your future, what legacy will you leave behind? Because you will be a four mother, your daughter, your son, your child, who becomes an adult, will look back and be, and be reflecting what we're doing today. They're gonna reflect upon you and what you've instilled in them and what they're taking from you.
12:42 So here we are making an impact in others lives just like our four mothers did for us. You know, and if, and if you're telling me right now at Denise, you know, I can't think of a single positive thing about my mom, or I can't think a single positive thing about my grandmother, or I don't know who my mother was wonderful. And I mean that respectfully how fantastic you have a clean slate, my friend, who are you, and who do you, or who do you want to be? And then take that moving forward, right? Some of us can't look to the past, cuz some of us maybe have some traumatic experiences that we wanna leave behind. Or some of us don't know our mothers or for mothers. And so here's a, a wonderful reframe for that. And we get to start clean, clear, and we get to create what we wanna create.
13:41 And here's my list of values. And here's what I wanna take into the future. And I wanna, I wanna show my children or I wanna show my followers, or I wanna demonstrate to my community members, this is who I am. I'm not, not here to change your mind. I'm not here to tell you what to do, but I am here to influence. And I'm here to show that I have integrity and that I care genuinely about people and that I'm working hard to show my community that we're all in this collectively together and that we need to deeply care about one another. And so this is an opportunity for you to move forward with the values that are serving that are gonna serve you and your future legacy.
14:35 So use this holiday season and if you're listening to this many months from now, great, do it at any point in time in your life, where did you get that from? I got it from my mama. So the next time they say, wow, you're just way too much. You can respond. Yep. And I got it from my mama and stand proud in who you are because there were so many things that had to happen for you to be standing here today. And so do we owe our four mothers, anything? Do we owe them to move forward into this future with pride, with power, with sovereignty? I say, so I say, yes.
15:24 I say yes. And here we are today talking about how you are going to impact your future legacy. So bridge the gap between the past and the future. And if you're unable to do it, stand firm in who you are, choose the values, demonstrate them fully, and then move forward into the future, knowing that you're influencing others with your values. All right. My fair. And I hope you found today inspiring. If you wanna share with me a little bit about your lineage, your ancestry, who your mother is was, or who you wished she was for you head over to IG at Dr. Denise. And I wanna hear from you all right, my friend have a wonderful rest of your week and um, I'll have another great episode for you next week. I'll check in with you, then take good care.
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